Hello beautiful soul,
This month marks something really momentous for me, and I want to start by celebrating that with you :).
It’s been 10 years since I started my business. This is such a milestone, as I remember 10 years ago when my business was just a seed of an idea as I headed to NYC Nov. 2011 to start working with my mentor and a circle of women to bring my idea to life.
What started as Yoga’licious has transformed into Essence’tially You, and there have been so many shifts and deepenings along the way.
As I now sit on my couch writing to you and reflecting back on this past decade I feel so grateful and so much love in my heart to have to date served hundreds of women during the past decade on their journey home to themselves. Thank you for being here, I am truly grateful to each and every one of you. Even if we’ve never officially spoken, I am grateful for your presence here, and I look forward to deepening our connection and for so much more to come.
Today, as we head deeper into the Fall, and eventual Winter, I want to share a piece I wrote a few years back. As I reference back on it today, it’s so pertinent to me now as I am going through a major transition in my life. It’s about learning how to slow down, to release the push, and to trust in the ever changing cycles of life… and that there are times in our life where we experience different seasons, and that the antidote for that is not to push, and rather to rest into the phase we’re in for it’s all part of our evolution and souls journey.
I hope you enjoy it, and I am sending some extra Tender loving care,
Nothing ever stays the same, and evidence of this is everywhere.
From the rhythms of the seasons to the orbit of the planets and the cycles of birth and death all around us, we can see the cyclical nature of all existence.
Unfortunately, in today’s world, this sacred cyclical nature of life is often ignored. We push ourselves to go, go, go. Do more. Be more. Achieve more. Own more.
We live in a world where productivity is often valued and praised above all else, and as a result, we are sorely disconnected from the rhythms that are inherent in our lives… the natural cycles and phases that are part of what it means to be human.
I continue to remind myself that just like everything else in nature, I too need space and time to grow. I need space and time to be barren, to strip down to the bones. I need to take a moment, or a season, to pause. And in those moments, I need to resist creating out of some urge to fill the empty space and to trust that when it’s time, new growth will come.
The tree that sheds its leaves and becomes barren in winter doesn’t resist those leaves falling.
It doesn’t hide or cover up its barren nature in the winter.
I’m pretty sure, It doesn’t say “oh now that my leaves are not all full and bushy, I guess I must give up and pack up and go home until it’s spring and summer again and I look pretty to the human eye.”
It stands there—vulnerable, open, and available.
The tree allows itself to be barren. To be bare. Without resistance. It trusts that this too shall pass, honoring the truth that it needs this time of rest and allowing to support its next burst of growth. The tree gives in to the medicinal wisdom of winter, slowing down, releasing all the parts of itself it no longer needs.
In this space of darkness, bare to the bones, things are happening beneath the surface that allows the next season of natural creative expression to blossom.
I know—and have experienced time and time again when I’ve given myself the space to be bare and vulnerable—that like the tree, I too will rise up again, and that in the meantime, I require patience and allowing of what is.
This experience of acceptance can be challenging. It’s a journey of coming home and befriending the mystery.
Being willing to walk with the unknown.
Being willing to unwind years of conditioning and patterning that says “the more you do, the more you will be valued” or “if you give yourself this space, you’re going to miss out somehow or others will leave you behind” or “you must care and tend to everyone else first before yourself.”
Regardless, I believe it’s worth it. One of my commitments these past few years—to myself and to you—is to honor the medicinal cycles and rhythms of life and to be an advocate for others doing the same. Because it’s my belief that in allowing space for these energies to work within us—in honoring the spaces where we need to slow down and surrender–we are actually harnessing a greater power than we’ve ever known.
It’s time to shift our collective obsession of identifying with the cultural norm of push, push, push.
It’s time to talk about what’s real and what’s here.
It’s time to learn as a community how to honor the darkness and how to begin talking about the sacred parts of ourselves and our lives that, in many spaces, are considered taboo: women’s menstruation, shining bright and taking up space, shame, self-doubt, grief, anger, how loving all parts of yourself isn’t always rainbows and unicorns, and how to work closely and intimately with all the natural rhythms of life.
I really feel it’s in honoring ALL of these parts in yourself that we truly will be the change we wish to see in the world.
I invite you to play with these energies inside you and see what emerges as you, too, give yourself space to be in the mystery.