The underbelly of transformation that often isn’t spoken about
Hello beautiful soul,
Wow, we’re already in December. I can’t believe it. How’s your heart? How’s your being as we head into the end of 2021?
This year, for me, has been one of the most intense and transformative years I’ve experienced in a long time. I’m still working my process, and not quite ready to share, yet I’ve been doing some really powerful deep work, and I look forward to sharing more when the timing is right.
Today I want to talk about transformation. So often, the world of transformational work can be glamoured with a pretty bow on top without sharing more of the ins and outs of what can be experienced as you’re transforming.
While I am in the business of transformation and feel it’s SO vital to our deepened connection to ourselves, I feel it’s also important to name that transformation isn’t always as “pretty” as what’s being advertised. I feel it’s so important to name this, so that when you’re moving through big stuff, and healing on a root level, that you don’t think there’s something wrong with you if it doesn’t look as glamorous as many will tell you it is.
Transformation and growth isn’t a straight line. It’s messy sometimes. There’s a melting down that needs to happen in service of what is being transformed. While all in service of our evolution, it’s often not as glamorous as the world can paint it to be… Now, I am not saying it can’t be friendly and there aren’t moments to come up for air, yet; I am sharing because if you’re going through a transformation and it’s rough, or you’re riding choppy waters, I see you and know you’re not doing it wrong, even if it feels different from what you imagined.
You’re growing, and that shit is intense sometimes. Be gentle with yourself and your being. Take time to come up for air like watching a funny movie, celebrating the journey, or connecting with a friend.
Many years ago I read this excerpt about the process a butterfly goes through to transform by Danielle LaPorte, and it’s something that has stuck with me to this very day… the process of transformation that we see as the butterfly isn’t as linear as we make it out to be. Here are her wise words I hope will inspire you to continue forward on the path you’re on:
“When the caterpillar becomes a butterfly, there is a stage in its metamorphosis where it is completely liquified. It is a “nutritive soup of enzymes.” Entirely unrecognizable. You can’t tell what it was, or what it will become. Soup.
Many of us are familiar with Joseph Campbell’s metaphor of “the hero entering the darkest part of the forest, where no one has entered before.” But what’s often left out of that teaching is this: “… and the hero moves in a dream landscape of curiously fluid, ambiguous forms.” More soup.
There will be a time, a passage when you don’t really know who you were, or are, or can be. It’s natural, it’s divine, and it’s the chemistry of beautiful, awesome change.”
And so, as we transition and wind down on this year into the next one, how can you be gentle with yourself through your transformation of reclaiming your divine Self? What ways can you celebrate yourself for the journey, even if it feels messy? In what ways can you call on support as you’re transforming so you can better navigate the messy parts?
I see you, you’re not alone, and I am cheering you on.
Wishing you a beautiful day ahead, and my plan is you’ll be hearing from me one more time before the end of the year.
P.S. I’d love to hear any reflections or thoughts you may have from receiving these words! Happy to receive you. I read each email :).